Have you ever found yourself repeatedly thinking about making changes but rarely following through? Maybe you constantly tell yourself, "I should start exercising," or "I really need to get more organized," but your intentions rarely turn into actions. This can be deeply frustrating and confusing because it feels like you're stuck in a perpetual loop of contemplation. 

You're not alone—this struggle is incredibly common. The gap between thinking about change and taking concrete action often stems from misunderstanding your readiness and the preparation required to successfully transition into active change. When you know your current stage in the cycle of change, you can bridge this gap with confidence and clarity. 

The Trap of Contemplation 

Contemplation is the stage where you’re aware a change is necessary, yet uncertain about how or where to start. It feels safe because it requires no immediate action—but it can also be deeply frustrating. This stage is filled with endless thought loops and "what if" scenarios, creating anxiety and hesitation that prevents you from moving forward. 

When you're stuck in contemplation, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by possibilities, unsure about your ability to succeed, or afraid of potential failure. This stage often leads to procrastination, reinforcing the false belief that you're not capable of meaningful change. 

Why Do We Get Stuck Thinking? 

Several factors contribute to being stuck in contemplation: 

• Fear of Failure: Worrying about failing can paralyze your ability to start. 

• Perfectionism: Feeling you need the perfect plan before taking any steps. 

• Lack of Clarity: Not clearly defining what your goals are and how to achieve them. 

• Overwhelmed by Options: Too many choices or strategies can feel daunting, causing decision paralysis. 

For example, imagine Jessica, who wanted to change careers but felt stuck for years. She constantly researched and thought about possibilities but never took action because she was afraid of making the wrong choice. Only after recognizing her stage in the change cycle could she shift her focus toward structured preparation and eventually, meaningful action. 

Steps to Move from Thinking to Doing 

1. Acknowledge Your Stage: Recognize and accept that you’re in contemplation. Understanding that this is a legitimate and normal stage can relieve pressure and guilt. 

1. Gain Clarity: Clearly define what you want and why you want it. Write down specific and realistic goals. 

1. Develop a Simple Plan: Break your goals into manageable tasks and timelines. Simple, achievable steps reduce anxiety and build momentum. 

1. Set a Specific Start Date: Avoid indefinite procrastination by committing to a clear, specific starting point. 

1. Create Accountability: Share your goals and timeline with someone who can offer encouragement, accountability, or practical support. 

Real-Life Example 

Take the example of Mark, who was stuck thinking about launching a small business for years. After clearly identifying he was stuck in contemplation, Mark took practical steps—he set a firm start date, outlined small achievable goals, and shared his plan with a mentor for accountability. Within months, Mark transitioned from contemplation to tangible actions, opening his business successfully. 

From Thought to Action 

Thinking about change is an essential starting point—but true transformation occurs when thoughts become actions. Knowing your current stage in the change process empowers you to bridge that gap effectively. 

Are you ready to move from thinking about change to actually making it happen? Take the free "Self-Awareness Quiz" now to identify your stage and discover clear steps forward.